Couples Therapy

Considering starting couples therapy takes courage, and I am so glad you are here to learn more about what couples therapy with me might look like. If you are feeling disconnected, stuck, or exhausted from having the same arguments, I want to share a little bit about the approach I take, what you can expect, and the outcomes I work towards.

My Approach: I focus on the core of your relationship: your emotional bond. Rather than just handing out communication worksheets or focusing purely on behavioral changes, my approach goes deeper. I believe we are biologically wired to seek and maintain secure, loving connections with our significant others. I am interested in learning more about what might be getting in the way of that connection and then working to try out something different.

When that vital bond feels threatened, it naturally triggers a stress response. I understand that during conflict, you or your partner may get angry, demanding, or shut down. I work to slow down and understand these stress responses. My approach focuses on slowing down and uncovering what may be underneath these protective strategies. After we understand more about what is happening, then practicing doing something different.

Expectations: Therapy is a collaborative process. You can expect a safe, non-judgmental environment where we can work together to slow down, explore conflict and transform it into healing. We will create powerful new moments of emotional connection where both partners learn to turn toward each other in difficult moments. When your couple’s loving connection is no longer blocked, tackling everyday practical problems will be much easier. This new ease will ensure these positive changes stick and that you have a new story of resilience for your relationship.

The Outcomes: The ultimate goal is not just to manage or contain your conflict, but to create a relationship that serves as a true emotional bond for both of you to navigate the world from.

By the end of our work together, you can expect to walk away with greater emotional awareness, better emotional regulation, and a profound sense of mutual understanding.

My training is in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. EFCT is highly effective. Decades of research show that 70% to 75% of couples move from distress to full recovery, and roughly 90% report significant, lasting improvements in their relationship.

I firmly believe that it is entirely possible to transform your dynamic from one of conflict and distance into a compassionate, stable, and resilient loving connection.